Dating someone going through a divorce
How can you combat your feelings of insecurity and work through this challenging time?
If you’re involved with someone who’s going through a divorce (or will be), you need to be ready for the roller coaster ride.
And, an important piece here, this advice today is based on the fact that you’ve done your work to know that this man fits your requirements and your vision.
(If you feel you may need assistance with these, please email me: [email protected]) Having said that, have you got what it takes to pull off this part of your journey with your man?
If his discussion of the divorce is a one hundred percent blaming of his soon-to-be ex-wife, take a step back. If, at the core, the problem with his wife was a drug or alcohol problem, she may be responsible for a big part of the breakup, but he may have developed co-dependent tendencies.
This means that he needs to be part of a relationship drama instead of part of a relationship.
Again, counseling for someone in a relationship with heavy addiction issues is a must and any insistence that, "I'm not crazy, she's the one that's crazy," is a rehearsal for his lines in the movie that might become your life if you stick with him and he continues to live in denial about his role in things going bad.
If he flat out does not know what went wrong with the marriage or is evasive, insist he get to the bottom of it with you.
It will call forth your very best qualities: being loving, patient, trusting, empathetic, vulnerable, honest, holding yourself in high regard, being able to be flexible, and being accepting of yourself and of him.When it comes to seriously dating a nearly divorced man, there is frequently a third person in your relationship – his not-quite-ex-wife.It feels like he’s the one for you but the strong emotions he feels for his wife are a challenge. She was a bitch, yet he seems to be grieving the loss of HER.Dating a guy who is going through a divorce can be a different type of relationship that not all women are equipped to deal with.Although the best advice is to take it as slow as possible, things often speed up without us realizing it, as love can be the natural state of things and seem so easy when it appears.